We are between places. Where we are right now is not our destination, but we have been busy and filled up and that has been good.
Visiting the Art Lady’s House.
All of that stuff that makes a big move stressful has been put on hold for us. It’s like we’re speed dating the East Coast after being gone from the scene for a couple of years. As a result, my mind which is usually pretty good at sorting out the background noise from the important stuff is running on a different set of cylinders doing all of the those things you do when you are buying a house and playing with cousins and living close to Target.
But somehow amidst the noisy everyday stuff is the reality that our life as we know it at this minute is just temporary. Beyond the unpacking and organizing that we are going to face, moving is hard work and filled with questions. Sometimes it’s just little stuff like adjusting to grocery stores with new layouts or learning street names and short cuts. But there are these other questions that are pretty big: Who will you call when your baby gets sick? Who will give you that haircut that makes you feel fantastic? Who will you invite over on a Friday night to share a pizza with?
Drawing “our family.”
The good news is that this time around thinking about all of these things doesn’t make me feel as overwhelmed and off balance. I have the experience of having done it twice before. I know all of those questions will get answered and things that seem new and different will fade into normalness. Now I know that when the time comes to roll up my sleeves and get the work done I can handle it.
“Apparently my size makes me kind of scary.” ~ Hank
All of the writing I did over the last two years, facing my struggles head on and being hell bent on learning from them was one of the most worthwhile things I’ve ever done for myself. My experience moving to Oregon was like having that really challenging teacher. You know the one, she made you work harder than you ever had to before, but you stuck it out and when you think of great teachers it’s her that you think of first.
The only size that matters between friends is the size of your heart.
The biggest lessons I learned were about having patience and appreciating that one moment you are living that you will never get back. That is what I want to take with me on this move and every one to come. Life is happening so be a part of it, wherever you are and with whatever gifts you have been given. And try; really try, to embrace it.
We spend our lives in a state of in between. It’s a great place to be if you really think about it, looking back and appreciating where you’ve been and staying hopeful about the future. It isn’t always easy, but if you assemble it right you’ll end up sandwiched between a whole lot of good stuff.